A lesson to learn

Some people have a habit of learning from their surroundings i also want to be one of them i believe we all need to educate our selves beside from newspaper and course books, life is much larger than your business administration degree or your medical sciences study. if you want to excel in life you have to learn from you surroundings, you have to watch people doing good deeds learn from them.
If any of your parents making you understand something dont give them "Not so happening" glance, i know they always seems to be wrong but in reality they are always right and i am not saying i always do what they say but i know they are always right because they have an experience which is much better than any other knowledge because when u have a knowledge about any thing you make assumptions or u have information but when you get to experience that thing for which you have only some knowledge before you get to know the real essence of life and that is how you learn .
So the best example i am going to give here is my self i am not going to exaggerate my self being so righteous and honest what i would like to share is i learn from my mistakes. i know people make mistakes and then forget about them what ever the consequences come we face them and move on and always feel bad about those mistakes and never try to think about them ever again but in my opinion its really not bad to make mistakes because thats is how we learn not to make them again.
Its about our realization once we realize we have done something wrong we should start the learning process the first step is forget about any bad feeling or regret you have . second try to calm yourselves by understanding that mistakes are unavoidable everyone make mistakes there is nothing big about it try to stop cursing your self or cursing others or life sometimes we all act stupid, and things dont turned out as we plan and that is why we are here to learn .
Third and final step try to learn from your mistake that is hard because there are few people who actually blame themselves for their mistakes, dont put too much blame again just manage the balance ,analyze what goes wrong and decide not repeat it next time .
Trust me this learning process is a great way to be positive towards your life .

and lastly i just want to add one saying of Hazrat ALI (A.S)which i again gained by this learning process from my surroundings.It is

"Jub Dua or Kosish say baat na banay tu faisla Allah per chor do. Allah apnay bandu kay barray main behtar faisla karnay wala hai ."

Meaning

"When prayers and all your tries don't seem like working out leave the decision on Allah .Allah always takes the better decision for his people."

Somewhere I belong....

No no i am not going to write linkins park song's lyrics here but yes i wanted to elaborate this title because i have came across such feeling many times . The quest of my identity , the place where i always wanted to reach, still my thirst is incomplete ,still the desire of reaching my destiny is unfilled.
Where i belong ?
When i was a kid i had to changed my school in sixth grade although i was a confident kid but the fear of being unaccepted by other kids was the first thing that stroked me while i was entering new class , same happened my class mates were not so welcoming and as my quite nature i had to suffer and bare strange glances ,funny groans, rude behavior no body tried to bully me but it was like a normal attitude which i guess every person faces when entering into a new territory, but i have been always among a list of best students so i wasn't in any hurry to make friends .
I was good in studies and few days later managed to mingle with the group of girls but still nobody recognized me so much, meanwhile my english teacher selected me for a declamation contest and i won first prize that day was the day i have been looking for since the very first day of my new class that was my break through every body in my class came near me they actually noticed me , i made my identity and since then i was one of the known person in teachers and among students.
School finished had good grades , all well , college was again fun and then this feeling of belonging somewhere else came ... not because the circumstances changed but because i never got any break through again , everything changed my university life was a big disaster for me although i made frnds there but i spent four years of my life with this feelings , i know how it feels when this feeling comes up it ruins everything even if you are surrounded by divine beauty you still cannot enjoy it.
I don not have any regret but the only regret is where i was wrong to made a decision of destroying my identity, why i ever opted for such place where i have never belonged , how am i going to turn back the time.
will i ever become able to judge my place of belonging next time???
or do i have to learn more ????

Ways to kill depression!!

Well we all feel depressed somewhere at somepoint in life it could be anything relationships ,fear,sadness,loss.... modes of depressions are count less u name it and it starts ..

But what we should actually do when any one feels depressed i mean its easier to say that go out talk to frnds and listen music and watch some movies but these are things which u do when u feel like ... not when you are depressed coz in real when depression hits someone he or she cannt handle that scenario normaly thats why we called it depression .
But i guess i can suggest few things coz i had quite an experience regarding it .
well first of all if somebody come across with any such kind of situation where there is no way out then if you are spirtual and even if you are not try to become like that coz ,its not ur body which needs peace at that time its your mind your heart you have to make things clear and understandable to yourr self so be spirtual do any thing which relates with your religon jus tell your self that you have connection with God that connection might not be visible but its the strongest one if you are muslim then jus offer prayers even u hav neva did that in your past but jus to make ur self calm give it a try don’t feel hesitate don’t think that what God says that u neva bothered to remember him and when it comes ,the hard time u started actually lookin for him No, because God loves your more than you can imagine he always waits for your call ,Call of peace Call for happiness .And when you passed that formal and first stage of hastiness and utmost depression ,then start thinking about ways which for the time can divert your mind .,if you are a person like me who donnt have much frnds then jus start talking to your self but keep that in mind rather talking negatively about your self think positive neva blame your self for anything for any mistake but jus promise your self you wont repeat it again jus give your self one chance one positive motivation and lastly don’t lose hope .
Believe on God then believe on your self in the end everything will be fine :)

Exams Fever!!

“God when they are far we never care and when there are only few days left we actually started thinking about them “
Why this happens to me always ? Is it me only or there are other people like that ? I don’t think so any body could be more care free when it comes for exams and not just hourly or terminal exams but Final exams ?? May be that’s because I am too lazy or careless at least that’s what my teachers in school complaint with my parents in annual parents teachers meeting ,but I don’t think so that’s the only reason I mean that is the biggest but there are other reasons as well,
First of all I am not happy with this examination procedure I mean why do I have to proof teachers that I have learn so many things, teacher should be capable of judging this throughout the sessions that which student has what potential .if they cannot what’s the use of making them a teacher or an instructor.
Second thing I do not have any problem in quizzes or assignments or any surprise test where we don’t have to study for hours and take that never ending dilemma of tension, but those tests are really mind boggling and can be refreshing at least when u gain good grade in something where your intelligence and presence of mind is being tested rather the quantity of words, you remember in certain period of time.
Third thing if you have good “PR “ with capital p and capital r with your teacher there is no need to give any exams just write your name in the answer sheet ,write a personal not in the copy’s main page and believe me you’ll pass without giving any hectic three hours long exam.
And the last thing although whatever things I have against exams in my mind before one day of my final exams I have to study because my all above mentioned reasons or argues failed when it comes to me  sadly .And that’s where I suffer !

The most beautiful person on this earth

MY MOTHER”tribute to my mother on mothers day”

Being a first child of my mother, I personally feel great attachment to her I guess my siblings feel the same and every child on earth feels the same way … because this relation which we term as a mother has its own undefined persona the more you try to define her the more you feel a need to be defined her again and again , So does I we all feel that our mothers are the bestest of all and she is one of the top mothers in world but the reality is they all are same for their children .

It’s such a strange fact that a mother can share her love equally to his all children ,which an ordinary person cannot like a fathers love can be variable like my father he loves more to my brother than me but my mother I always see the same shine in her eyes for all of us how she does that ? Totally mystical.

Another fact although I love my mother a lot but I always feel it’s nothing in front of my mother’s love I feel unsatisfied because somewhere in my sub conscious I want to love her back as she loves me I want to balance the amount of love we share but I always failed , I really don’t know how to praise her how to let her know that mom I love you the same way you loved me or may be i can never reach that point ,but still I just wanted to thank God that he gave me this blessing without which I m always incomplete .

Long live my mother …And God bless her !

Save the world!!

What is Global Warming?
By definition “Carbon dioxide and other gases warm the surface of the planet naturally by trapping solar heat in the atmosphere. This is a good thing because it keeps our planet habitable. However, by burning fossil fuels such as coal, gas and oil and clearing forests we have dramatically increased the amount of carbon dioxide in the Earth’s atmosphere and temperatures are rising.”
The vast majority of scientists agree that global warming is real, it’s already happening and that it is the result of our activities and not a natural occurrence. The evidence is overwhelming and undeniable.
We’re already seeing changes. Glaciers are melting, plants and animals are being forced from their habitat, and the number of severe storms and droughts is increasing.

We all are Poser

Sum times I feel that fakeness is so much around us now , it’s hard to even figure it out , there were times when people actually feel bad when they try to change their identity but now we all are posing every time ,we feel bad to show our real name ,name that our parents searched for so much may be ages before our birth letting their utmost feelings and emotions involved, like few days back I just went through a person when I asked his name he told me its AB ,I asked again thinking he must be telling me his nick name but the answer was same then I changed my question AB stands for he said Allah Baksh BINGO!

Then there is again an another incident which was quite funny, I went to a rock jamming session there it was a guitarist looking or trying to look like a dedicated rock star, when the band started playing it was all good but just after they finished their performance I noticed the guitarist’s electric wire of his guitar and guess what he was playing the electric guitar without even plugging it inside the switch..BINGO

Similar kind of another incident I went through recently when I visited my aunt who came after 5 years from US , as soon as we reached her place and entered her house she started talking about US at first I enjoyed but after two or three hours I actually started feeling getting trap in US phobia she was so over whelmed about her stay there, it seemed as if she lives there since ages she told us about his sons paper marriage with some person he even didn’t know about with such a pride so that he can get green card .BINGO

God our poor Pakistani in complex people when are they gonna leave their insecurities ahhhh……….?i guess we are the only nation living in self deprivation… we even don’t bother to search for our identity.

I kept on wondering what’s was so bad in telling me the real name may be he thinks it’s not that hip or trendy or maybe he feels shame but the point is why>?? And then what’s the need of this rock star to pose that he is a guitarist I mean when he got this guitar what’s the harm in learning how actually to play it ?

And what’s so prideful to leave your country and stay somewhere as a second citizen and do paper marriages there ?????

Why each time we try to hide our those belongings which we think our social community will not accept or its little different I guess the more weirdness you have the more unique you are ,we all are individuals and if we have anything unique or different associated with us we should try to feel proud of it and if we don’t have those wealthy and glittery back grounds what’s so bad about it or need to pose something we are not , my point is fakeness kills the beauty of our personality because in the end the reality do comes in front of all and rather facing that embarrassment it’s good to be real.